1. When we marry, our relationship with our parents has to change.
When we marry, our first allegiance belongs to God, then our spouse, then our children (if we have them), and then our parents. This isn’t something I came up with. It’s how God designed marriage.
“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
2. Your wife should not feel like she has to compete with your mother for your love, respect, and adoration.
You can have a great marriage AND a great relationship with your mother, but your marriage has to come first. Besides, the love you have for your wife is a different love than the love you have for your mother. You can love both, but you must address your wife’s needs before you turn to your mother’s. No exception
3. Unity is a must in marriage.
Two cannot become one unless we are unified. This means a husband and wife are on the same page and moving in the same direction…physically, emotionally, and spiritually. This can’t happen when a husband feels like loving his wife will somehow keep him from loving and respecting his mother. Loving your mother and loving your wife are two completely different experiences.
Husbands, Your mother are part of you. Mom raised you and was the first woman to love you and will love you forever, but a bird is NOT YOUR WOMAN. It can be hard for her to let go, but she has to give up control because of your marriage. And, YOU must gently, but directly, tell her this important fact.
Your mother will always be your mother, and you will always be her son. Nothing can change that. But, your wife deserves your full devotion. You swore to love her, protect her, serve her, and even give your life for her. It’s a different kind of love – a love that can only be experienced when we give our whole heart to our partner.
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