When you keep secrets within a relationship, this can lead to long-lasting harm, often causing a significant breach of trust. However, if you can have patience and open communication, it’s possible to find resolution and even strengthen the bond between you and your partner.
Recently, a woman named Suzan faced a sh0cking discovery about her husband. Unsure of how to proceed, she reached out to our editorial team, penning a letter seeking advice and support.
Here’s what she wrote:
Hi,
Last year, I (25F) tied the knot with Steve (28M). We had only known each other for six months prior to getting married. Admittedly, that wasn’t ample time to thoroughly understand every facet of each other’s personalities. But our relationship seemed to flow seamlessly. I’m a straightforward and uncomplicated person, and I assumed he shared similar traits. Moreover, both of us were financially secure and emotionally mature, making us feel ready to embark on the journey of marriage without delay.
Then, the other night, as I lay in bed scrolling through my phone, I heard my husband, lying next to me, utter the name ‘Laura’ in his sleep.”
It was very disconcerting to hear my husband call me another woman’s name. However, the next morning, I chose not to discuss what happened, fearing he would attempt to conceal the truth with lies if my suspicions were correct. To ease my worries and ensure there was no basis for any suspicion, I decided to delve deeper.
In the morning, as he was showering, I seized the opportunity and accessed his phone and was devastated to find a long chat history with a contact named “Laura.”
However, the most sh0cking twist came when I saw Laura’s picture, which was that of a little girl.
After a few weeks of continued investigation, through the girl’s social media account, I managed to reach out to her mother. Crafting a couple of polite questions, I received a heartfelt reply. That’s when I learned the truth: the little girl in the picture was my husband’s daughter. His ex-girlfriend, Laura’s mother, had taken her away because when she found out she was pregnant, Steve, still a med school student at the time, wasn’t ready to be a father.
The revelation raised dozens of questions in my head about why he hadn’t disclosed her existence to me yet. Now, feeling a mix of emotions, I’m pondering whether I need to confront him immediately about my discovery, which would mean admitting to monitoring his phone and investigating behind his back, or simply let him tell me himself whenever he feels ready. I’m deeply in need of your opinions and guidance on this matter.
Sincerely,
Suzan
