Anyone who has given birth will tell you it’s not easy.
In fact, it’s actually very difficult, and there are a number of different ways to go about it – depending on the circumstances.
Of course, it’s up to the mum to decide what kind of delivery she wants in her birth plan, based on personal preferences and advice from her midwife, whether she opts for a C-section, a straight up natural birth with nothing but gas and air, or even a water birth.
Turning to others for advice, the woman quizzed whether she was being “unreasonable” to think that it’s up to her how she chooses to give birth and not down to her husband’s preferences.
The wife explained that she and husband have repeatedly found themselves fighting over whether or not she should have a water birth, despite the fact that she’s not even pregnant.
She shared on Mumsnet that she is hoping to fall pregnant soon, but her husband is against her wishes to have a water birth, telling her that he thinks the “more pain you go through, the better your bond with your baby”.
The wife wrote: “So I’m not pregnant but hoping to be in the next few months. I have previously told OH I would ideally like a water birth, which he was totally against.
“He is very much of the opinion that a ‘normal birth on land’ has worked for 1000s of years so why should I want to do something different. Last night I brought it up again after reading a study that showed water births can decrease tearing and generally improve a mother’s wellbeing during childbirth.
“He believes that the more pain you go through, the better your bond with your baby, and cites statistics about mothers who have c-sections being more likely to develop PTSD or PND.”
Frustrated, the woman slammed her husband for being a “child” and not taking her opinion on board – so much so, that he even suggested looking into a surrogate who will have a “normal birth”.
“It’s like debating with a child. He doesn’t listen to my point of view or really take my feelings into consideration at all in the situation,” the woman vented.
“‘I’d rather we find a woman who will carry your egg and give a normal birth than choosing to lay my eggs in water when they should be laid in a nest,’ I mean come on… he basically said if I had a water birth he would never forgive me.”
It’s like debating with a child. He doesn’t listen to my point of view or really take my feelings into consideration at all in the situation
When the wide suggested seeking advice from a doctor or midwife, her husband refused.
Her post racked up hundreds of comments, with fellow mums calling out the husband for his behaviour and urging him to “grow up” as they sympathised with the woman.
Source:
thesun.co.uk, mirror.co.uk
