Never say these things to your partner when you are angry
Refrain from saying these things
When we are angry with each other, we tend to react in unforgiving ways. Many of us stoop so low that we are unable to meet our partner’s eye. To avoid permanent damage that could be so deep that there is no going back, here are 5 things you should never say or do whenever you are angry, NO MATTER WHAT!
1. “You never” and “You always” accusations.
When you label and attack your spouse’s character, you don’t allow them the chance to change. This puts them firmly in the “bad guy” camp and is an invitation for them to argue with you. It’s just not a good way to encourage them to change.
Instead, talk about the behaviors that bother you. Be specific about the problem and the change you would like to see while also sharing your feelings . It can be said that when they do none of the housework, it leaves a lot on your plate and you feel resentful. This allows for the possibility of your spouse changing their behavior.
2. The statements “so what?” and “who cares”.
Don’t use language that makes your partner think you have no interest in them or their opinion. Statements that scream the “don’t care” attitude make the other person feel inexperienced. It’s okay if you don’t agree, but it’s crucial that you listen to them.
Even if you don’t mean it, try your best to refrain from saying this to your partner, especially when they are talking about something that means a lot to them.
3. Intentionally pushing their buttons
Many people like to hit under the belt and say the things they know will make them even more angry. In anger, we will try anything to hurt the other person, but when in a relationship, this can even burn the bridge. We all know our partners well enough to be able to reach their deepest fears, regretting that they ever told us. They will forever lose their trust if they stoop to that level. It’s best to keep quiet and talk about it when you’re both calm.
4. Digging up the past
Don’t dig up past issues in your fight. In the heat of the moment you may say something, you know very well that you shouldn’t have said it. And we all know that we can’t take back our words.
5. Name-calling
Never! You should never ever resort to name-calling, no matter how ugly the fight is. It simply subtracts too much from your relationship. These words do not heal and last for a long time.
Source:marriage.com, timesofindia.indiatimes.com, blogs.webmd.com
