In November 2022, someone anonymously published their experience on Reddit’s “Off My Chest” topic. They revealed that they had been in a six-year relationship and were engaged for eight months to their fiancé, Ryan. Ryan was mostly responsible for wedding planning, but he also made occasional recommendations.
Approximately one month earlier, in October, Ryan startled the poster with an unusual request: don’t wear a white dress to their wedding. Initially baffled, the poster attributed Ryan’s idea to his creative leanings, figuring it was tied to aesthetic concerns.
Despite first dismissing the matter, the poster was “disgusted” by Ryan’s stance following the subsequent dispute, causing serious consideration about their future together.
Despite Ryan’s mixed reaction, the poster remained steadfast in their wish to wear white and communicated this to him. Ryan originally expressed irritation, but eventually surrendered and dismissed the topic.
What happened after the woman purchased a white wedding dress?
Two weeks before their wedding, the woman decided to buy her wedding gown, triggering a furious argument with her fiancé. He became irritated and wanted to see the dress, but she firmly refused, preferring to keep the surprise for their big day.
He pressed further, asking about the color of the clothing, and when he discovered it was white, his reaction was explosive. The emphasis on a white outfit perplexed her, given its usual association with brides. Baffled by his preference for red, she dug deeper, only to discover Ryan’s stunning belief: brides should only wear white if they were “pure.”
To provide perspective, the woman and her fiancé began their relationship when she was 21 and he was 20. He was a virgin when they met, whereas she had a past relationship. They seemed to have conquered their initial insecurities—until this moment.
Ryan sought his mother’s help in a desperate attempt to persuade her, but she supported the woman. In their living room, Ryan, his mother, and the woman got into a heated argument about the symbolism of her chosen attire.
Ryan’s mother noticed his loss of virginity and suggested that he wear red as well. Despite his tears, Ryan maintained his view that her wearing white would deceive their guests, claiming that standards different for males.
What was the woman’s decision?
The events that followed severely harmed OP’s faith in her relationship with Ryan. After the confrontation, she was “disgusted” by his actions, raising severe concerns about their future together.
Ryan’s preoccupation on her history, specifically her loss of virginity at the age of 18, long before they met, added to her bewilderment, despite her lack of religious beliefs. This news weighed heavily on her, prompting her to openly voice her problems and seek support from others.
In a subsequent update to the “Dating Advice” topic on November 24, 2022, OP found herself in a new scenario. After ending her engagement in her late twenties, she went on her first date in six years.
Her first date, scheduled for November at a waterfront seafood restaurant in North Carolina, left her unsure of what to wear. Commenters reportedly urged that she wear red.
After reading this narrative, do you agree with the OP’s decision to cancel her engagement, or would you have chosen another option? Click here to read about another man who asked that his fiancée’s hymen be checked by his father in front of their family to guarantee her purity.
