A mother became so angry that she acted out in a big way after finding out that her son was doing nothing to help his wife with their home or three children. The mother took to Reddit to share her story and ask if she was wrong for doing that. Here’s her full story.
“I’m 60 and bad with the whole text thing on mobiles so I’m hoping I won’t be judged on my grammar
Here’s the important background my daughter in law (32) and son(33) have 3 children aged 3 years 2 years and 4 months . He convinced her to be a stay at home mom and sell her business by telling her how good of a childhood he had and how happy my marriage was without telling her (which I today found out) that our arrangement was everything everything before 9am and After 5pm was split 50/50, Sunday was my day off and I was brought out twice a week.
On to the story- on my last visit I noticed my daughter in law was struggling mentally so I,my sister(55f) and her girlfriend (53) pulled our money together and paid for a spa weekend for them while we’d babysit the kids for her birthday last weekend.
I was preparing on Thursday evening for the kids to arrive when my dil rang me holding back tears saying they’d won’t be going because my sons friend came to town and he said he wanted to spend the weekend with his friends catching up. I pressed her a little and I’m talking a little about her situation , she came clean about him doing no chores,no date nights and her basically doing all of the child care because “that’s what stay at home moms do” I was honestly disgusted. I convinced her to drop me off the kids and bring a friend to the spa I even dipped into my savings to give her €500 to buy herself something nice. When she dropped me off the kids I begged her to tell me were son was after 5 minutes she told me the bar. She left for the spa while I left for the bar (she knew I was going there and knew my sister/my sister in law were taking care of the kids)
Here’s were I might be the asshole I when to the bar were he and his friends were, I sat down next to the Group and asked my son “did i fail you as a mother or was it your father because we both thought your partner comes before your silly drunk friends” the post is getting long enough but long story short I h.u.m.i.l.i.a.t.e.d him and got myself banned from a bar
My dil said she will taking the kids to her parents when she gets back tomorrow and my son is calling me an asshole for h.u.m.i.li.a.tin.g him/ sticking my nose in his marriage Maybe I should have stayed out i don’t know
Edit I just wanted to say I’m heartbroken not by any judgement towards me or my parenting skills but the fact a lot of people are s.h.o.c.k.e.d I’m care about my daughter in laws mental health and stood up for her against my sons bad behaviour I just want to say as a mother my advice is Treat your daughter/son/non-binary in laws how you’d want YOUR children to treated. Respect goes along way”
There are more than three thousand comments on the mother-in-law’s post and almost everyone agreed that she did the right thing. Here’s some comments:
You are a hero disguised as a mother-in-law.”
“It sounds like your misogynistic son needed some h.u.m.il.i.at.i.o.n and to have someone stick their nose into his marriage. It’s not like you are a stranger – you are his mother. Also, this is not a minor thing, this is your son treating his wife like a servant, not a spouse.”
“Seriously! She also has a genuine interest in the welfare of her grandchildren! Burnt out moms aren’t nice to grow up with! So glad the daughter-in-law knows that her mother-in-law had her back! It will benefit everyone in the long run!”
“I feel like it’s definitely appropriate for her to lecture her son about not treating his wife properly, but storming into the bar might have been more than was needed at the time. A phone call that goes along the lines of ‘we need to talk. Now,’ would probably have been better,”
“Your son had the audacity to cancel a spa trip you paid for so he could go get drunk with his friends. How dare he. Any good mum tells their kids off when disrespecting their partner. Your daughter-in-law is doing everything for that family, and she definitely didn’t deserve the h.u.m.i.li.a.ti.o.n of her husband dictating she can’t go out because he wants to.”
Source: Reddit
