There is an ancient saying: Near ink it is dark, near lamp it is bright. The type of people you associate with will determine your level and the type of person you will become in the future.
“I do everything for your benefit.”
Mutual respect is the basic thing needed in interpersonal communication. If a person always shows disrespect to you intentionally or unintentionally. That means the other person is not communicating sincerely with you.
I do everything for you, this is probably a saying that all of us have heard. They use your interests to justify everything they do, regardless of whether you want it or not. Does it make you uncomfortable or not?
Does it make you confused whether they really want the best for you or are taking you down a rabbit hole.
People who say “for your benefit” actually just want to oppress you. You get good grades, your boss praises you, and you get promoted and get a raise. As long as you encounter good things, that person will quickly point out the bad things and traps that are waiting for you ahead.
They say discouraging things to oppress you and then explain that they have no bad intentions but just hope you don’t be arrogant, it’s all for your own good.
Some people talk for your benefit, but in reality they never want you to live better than them. If you just ask for advice, they will only direct you to negative things.
“People like that are not good, don’t trust them”
Regardless of life or work, there is always a type of person who likes to speak ill of others behind their backs, pointing out that someone is not good and should not be trusted. This person can be a friend, colleague or ordinary neighbor. During the process of getting to know them, you think that they are not bad, but it is best not to trust this type of person.
What was your first reaction? Wise people always choose to stay away from people who say bad things about others. A person who likes to speak ill of others shows that they are narrow-minded, like to gossip, like to cause division, and treat people poorly.
Obviously, in the process of becoming friends with others, they have never shown even the slightest bit of hate. There are even compliments from the other person but in a blink of an eye they tell you that he is not a good person.
Associating with someone like that, every day you will become a “bad person” in their mouth.
“If it weren’t for…I wouldn’t be like this.”
There is an ancient saying: Near ink it is dark, near lamp it is bright. The type of people you associate with will determine your level and the type of person you will become in the future.
When you associate with people with positive energy, you will learn from their positive attitudes.
But on the contrary, if you associate with someone with negative energy, you will also absorb that energy.
If you meet someone like that, who often blames others for this or that, it’s best not to get close.
A person who is dissatisfied with something and blames fate is probably not putting 100% effort into their own life. They only focus on comparing what others have achieved and complaining about fate, but do not see how much effort other people have put in.
In this large society, we will meet all types of people, some good, some evil, some sincere, some hypocritical. The mind to harm others does not exist, but the mind to protect others must definitely exist.
